Demi Lovato Is ‘Cool’ For More Than Just The Summer

Don’t tell your mother.

Remember the part of quarantine almost a year ago when a bunch of young celebs were getting engaged randomly? It was right after we all stopped caring about Tiger King. Well, we’ve come full circle and it’s happening again. But while Ariana Grande didn’t learn her lesson the first time, Demi Lovato did. Instead of searching for someone else to put a ring on it, Demi is spending her time being “really queer” in her technicolor “cloud room.” A much better alternative than devoting yourself to a grown man who spends his time tweeting abt selena gomez.

In a recent interview with Glamour, Lovato explains how she almost designed her new house for a straight couple — referring to her and her ex fiancé, some guy named Max — and how gross that would’ve been. Instead she created her own rainbow-colored “cloud room” where she can finger up a storm! That’s when she clarifies in the interview, “I’m not straight, but [my relationship] was a hetero situation. This could have been a very normal-looking house.”

Not only is her house gayer, but her hair is, too. Lovato cut it all off and died it hot pink so no one would ever think she was straight again. She refers to herself as “really queer” and says she is “exploring” her sexuality following her breakup, but doesn’t want to put any labels on it. She actually kind of sounds like she’s preparing for a moon landing tbh, but everything feels really dramatic and intense when you first come out, so I get it.

“I know who I am and what I am, but I’m just waiting until a specific timeline to come out to the world as what I am,” she says. “I’m following my healers’ timeline, and I’m using this time to really study and educate myself on my journey and what I’m preparing to do.”

What are you preparing to do, Demi???? The interviewer says the singer has an “end goal” of completely shaving her head, so maybe that’s the big reveal?? Also I love that that’s an “end goal” like it could take months, possibly years, to shave that pixie cut off.

Lovato explains it wasn’t just her failed engagement that made her realize she wasn’t straight. “When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” she says, which is obvious to any of us who remember “Cool for the Summer,” which at the time felt like an anthem for straight drunk girls who think their friends are hot, but has now taken on a whole new meaning. Lovato says she saw her breakup as a “huge sign” that she should finally live her “truth.”

At the mome, she says she’s “too queer” to date a cis man after hooking up with a girl and liking it “a lot more.” She says, “It felt better. It felt right.” She adds that she would have a “visceral reaction” when it came to sex with her male partners, “Like, I don’t want to put my mouth there,” and that she’d rather be friends with them. So rn she is def sounding a lil too queer for cis men.

While the only part of this interview that’s gone viral is that Lovato’s queer, there was another nugget of wisdom in there I thought was worth sharing, esp for anybody coming out of a hard relationship who might be dealing with trust issues (so all of us). When discussing her engagement, Lovato talks about seeing a ton of red flags, but not trusting herself and ignoring them. So when she was initially worried she’d never trust anybody again, she realized that wasn’t the way to look at it. “‘Bitch, you should have trusted yourself,’” she says. “If you had trusted yourself, you wouldn’t have ended up in this position.’”

So what did Demi Lovato teach us today? Don’t live in fear of people hurting you, because they will, just make sure you love and trust yourself enough to survive the pain. And be “cool” all year long!!!!

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